[statecom-discuss] ] why are good feelings so scarce?

[jamie mclaughlin]

>From: ellquist.co.atty at juno.com
>To: experimental_radio at hotmail.com
>Subject: Re: [usgp-nc] why are good feelings so scarce?


cludia responded to a post i made on the national list about being nice to 
each other,

stem cells and human beings....

I myself need to look at how i write to these list we should make more of an 
effort to be nice to each other to meet our goals,

peace

jamm
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>Date: Mon, 12 Feb 2007 20:56:20 -07
>hi, jamie [off list]
>I agree that we should treat each other better on this list [and
>everywhere]/
>Here is what I have find to work:
>
>1.  I can always control what I contribute.  I never send anything out
>that I have not re-read twice, and tried to make as kind as is consistent
>with the truth.  Without such self-control, email can be a merciless
>medium, because you don't see the faces of people reacting to what you
>say.  That anonymity can give rise to mayhem if we don't work very hard
>at replacing the mean phrase with the neutral phrase.  I have come to see
>email as a spiritual discipline, when used to edit my own conversation,
>to make it kinder, fairer and more accurate.  Those same skills, onced
>honed, carry over to face-to-face conversations, so I get blessed twice.
>[I come across as longwinded, or pious, or teacherish-- but that is
>better than coming across as mean!]  Si dulcera y bondadosa es tu manera
>de ser, cambiar el mundo es tu deber.
>
>2.  You cannot control what others do.  Most meanness is not worth
>responding to, because the person either genuinely cannot see that he was
>mean, or meant to be mean, so, what can you say to change that?
>
>3.  The majority of readers will read carefully, and will see who is
>being mean, and who is being kind, and where the truth lies between them.
>  Trust them.  They may not bother to post a defense, because they have
>seen how futile it is, but they are on the side of kindness and truth!
>
>4.  You must speak up for your truth.  If someone else has already said
>it, leave it be, but if no one has, then we need your perspective.  That
>is not negotiable.  It may take courage, but you have courage, or you
>would not be here.  Make it kind, if you can, but speak it.  No hay otro
>que tiene la verdad que tienes, y nadie, pero tu, puede decirla.
>
>Con respeta,
>claudia ellquist, AzGP
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